Born to Be Different: LGBTQ2 Children of Heterosexual Families

Abstract

This chapter aims to challenge heterosexual norms in society by analyzing heterosexual families when confronted with the coming out of one of their children. Starting with the essentialist construction of identities and gender norms supported by the symbolic structure of the natural and traditional (straight) family, we reconstruct paths and dynamics of the response that heterosexual parents give to their LGBTQ2 children. Specifically, this contribution outlines the characteristics of the disclosure processes of homosexual children and the related reactions to such shocking and disorienting events of their families. Finally, we offer parents some good practices to react well and be welcoming to their LGBTQ2 children when they decide to come out of the closet with them. It is vital to have a positive reaction and construct a new way to be mothers and fathers, not only for the immediate response during adolescence but also in the long term, when their children will become independent adults.